Click to Play
0 plays
Sign in to like or dislike songs
"Influence with Kindness" is a song that echoes the principles of relating with one another in godly love and respect. While its roots are inspired by Dale Carnegie's wisdom, its essence can be anchored in the biblical mandate for how believers ought to interact with each other. The key scripture for this teaching is Philippians 2:3-4 (NIV): "Do nothing out of selfish ambition or vain conceit. Rather, in humility value others above yourselves, not looking to your own interests but each of you to the interests of others."
Let us look at what the Word of God says. Scripture provides clear guidance on living a life that radiates Christlike character, creating influence through the humility and kindness outlined in Philippians.
Paul's letter to the Philippians was penned while he was in prison, facing chains for the gospel. The Philippian church was one that Paul held dear; they supported him both spiritually and materially. Amidst this affectionate relationship, he writes them to encourage unity, humility, and selflessness. The Roman Empire, under which the Philippians lived, valued status and power, often leading to strife and division. Nevertheless, Paul urges a Christ-centered approach of humility, mirroring Christ's own sacrifice (Philippians 2:5-8).
In essence, Paul speaks to a community prone to the influence of societal norms, calling them to a higher standard — one of sacrificial love and unity.
The word "humility" in Philippians 2:3 is translated from the Greek "ταπεινοφροσύνη" (tapeinophrosýnē), which implies a deep sense of modesty and lowliness of mind. Unlike mere common modesty, this word emphasizes a consciousness not just of one's lowliness, but a readiness to consider others' needs and elevate them above one's own desires.
The phrase "value others" is the Greek "ἡγούμενοι" (hēgoúmenoi), which conveys the notion of leading by example, to regard and to esteem. Therefore, the essence of the command is to actively lead by valuing others, not passively acknowledge them.
Understanding these words, we grasp that the exhortation in Philippians is not merely a call to think less of oneself, but to purposefully lift others up.
As we move through the song, we perceive echoes of scriptural wisdom interwoven with Carnegie's insights.
### "Don't criticize, don't complain or condemn"
The Bible instructs us in Ephesians 4:29 to let no corrupting talk come out of our mouths, but only such as is good for building up. Our words have the power to edify or tear down, to impart grace or destruction.
### "Give honest praise, make them feel great...Appreciate sincerely"
In Proverbs 12:25, it's said, "Anxiety weighs down the heart, but a kind word cheers it up." Honest praise aligns with valuing others as Philippians instructs, creating an atmosphere where others feel appreciated.
### "Talk from their view, what they desire"
Romans 15:1-3 teaches us, "We who are strong ought to bear with the failings of the weak and not to please ourselves." Jesus Himself bore insults for the sake of others. Understanding others' perspectives is foundational to winning hearts.
### "Be a good listener"
James 1:19 directs us to be quick to listen and slow to speak. Listening is a form of valuing others, embodying humility as we put aside our own words to hear another's heart.
### "Avoid arguments, admit when you're wrong"
Proverbs 15:1 declares, "A gentle answer turns away wrath," emphasizing peaceful, humble engagement as a pathway to reconciliation and peace.
Through these elements, we observe the song’s practical reflection of biblical truth — kindness, active listening, and valuing others over oneself as taught in God’s Word.
First, we must continually remind ourselves of the humility of Christ. Reflect on Philippians 2:5-8, meditating on His humility as our model.
Second, we must practice active listening. Devote moments in your conversations where you intentionally set aside your thoughts or agenda, inviting others to share without interruption.
Third, we must pursue honest affirmation. Identify genuine qualities in others and express appreciation regularly, cultivating an environment where others feel valued.
Fourth, engage in self-examination and repentance. Regularly allow the Holy Spirit to expose areas where pride or selfish ambition may linger, and repent, seeking His help to walk in humility.
Let us boldly confess our faith: "I choose to follow the way of Christ, valuing others above myself, engaging with kindness and humility. My words shall uplift, and my ears will be open to hear. I am a vessel of God's love and truth."
Let us pray: Heavenly Father, we thank You for the perfect example of humility and love through Your Son, Jesus Christ. Empower us by Your Holy Spirit to walk as He walked, showing kindness and fostering unity. May our lives be a reflection of Your grace, drawing others to your Kingdom. In Jesus' name, Amen.
No more songs available